You know what? Gossipers never ask me about things, but they tend to ask those who interacted with me before. And from there they jump to their own conclusions.
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M's advice on this topic and related stuff:
Meet new people.
See if you like.
Get out of the old zone of people if you are no longer happy.
No, no, don't think like that.
Don't say that about yourself.
Don't care what other / some / [fill in the blank] people think.
Take up a new hobby, forget [fill in the blank].
Never mind. Move on.
Leave the old. Start fresh.
Start a new life.
Prove the stupid [fill in the blank] people wrong.
If you know who the gossipers are, then stay away from them. These people are 小人。("Xiu Yan")
I never liked the people there actually.
I don't like the vibe there.
Then move away from it.
Do something new.
Forget the past, enjoy your [fill in the blank] and move on.
Before you can (find back some part of your old happy self, the part that can be carefree and accepting of who you are), you have to let go of the unhappiness.
You move on to live happily.
Forget about [fill in the blank].
[Pronoun] doesn't deserve you at all.
[Pronoun] doesn't deserve your compassion.
If [name] had been through that much then [subject pronoun] should know that it is not right to put you down.
If [pronoun] had really been through so much, anything that comes to [object pronoun] should be heaven.
[Subject pronoun] won't be fussy.
If [subject pronoun] is a survivor, [subject pronoun] will work with you to make both your lives better. Not make you feel miserable.
[Name] doesn't deserve your time.
And you definitely should not feel bad about what [pronoun] said. Because [pronoun] is the [adjective] one here.
Just ignore [object pronoun].
Move forward with a positive mind.
Showing posts with label people. Show all posts
Showing posts with label people. Show all posts
Monday, May 9, 2016
Saturday, April 23, 2016
On entitled and demanding people
I think this is what I experienced with certain people. Whatever I do or did for them is never good enough. Somehow there will be a fault somewhere and I'll get hammered into the ground regardless.
Quote from Jade Joddle:
http://jadejoddle.com/how-and-why-i-help-people-with-boundaries/
"I discovered through my own life experience that when you go out of your way for entitled and demanding people, what you do for them is never enough. Either they come back the next day and ask for something more, or they complain that what they received was not good enough. You could give them the earth, but yet they would feel hard done by and cheated."
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B's response:
This being the case, it's better to find out sooner than later how nasty someone can be, and clean break away from them so this will limit the damage rather than keep being in the toxicity. People like this are a cancer in a community and relationship. In the beginning maybe people don't know, but later it's definitely not necessary to associate with them after knowing what they're all about.
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F's response:
Well, good that you can recognize this type of destructive character. While they're destructive towards themselves, they're even more destructive towards others. Let go and move on. I still feel the pain but time will heal.
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Joe: The sadistic voice pops up from time to time, but if I'm busy, it usually doesn't hurt as much. Flashbacks do occur. Some thoughts or dreams trigger it. I feel that a refresher, a "restart" in a friendly setting (remember Tioman diving 2014) can help with healing.
F: You have to have the belief that people are good. Generally people are good. Not everyone is out to put you down.
Joe: I really hope so. Been exposed to too much "reality + pragmatism" school of thought doses.
F: It can be draining but you gotta get refreshed emotionally, mentally, and whatnot.
Joe: Yup, yes, I'll keep that in mind.
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K's opinion:
Ask yourself, are you thinking straight? Whose words do you choose to listen to? Are you living a life true to yourself?
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Quote from Jade Joddle:
http://jadejoddle.com/how-and-why-i-help-people-with-boundaries/
"I discovered through my own life experience that when you go out of your way for entitled and demanding people, what you do for them is never enough. Either they come back the next day and ask for something more, or they complain that what they received was not good enough. You could give them the earth, but yet they would feel hard done by and cheated."
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B's response:
This being the case, it's better to find out sooner than later how nasty someone can be, and clean break away from them so this will limit the damage rather than keep being in the toxicity. People like this are a cancer in a community and relationship. In the beginning maybe people don't know, but later it's definitely not necessary to associate with them after knowing what they're all about.
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F's response:
Well, good that you can recognize this type of destructive character. While they're destructive towards themselves, they're even more destructive towards others. Let go and move on. I still feel the pain but time will heal.
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Joe: The sadistic voice pops up from time to time, but if I'm busy, it usually doesn't hurt as much. Flashbacks do occur. Some thoughts or dreams trigger it. I feel that a refresher, a "restart" in a friendly setting (remember Tioman diving 2014) can help with healing.
F: You have to have the belief that people are good. Generally people are good. Not everyone is out to put you down.
Joe: I really hope so. Been exposed to too much "reality + pragmatism" school of thought doses.
F: It can be draining but you gotta get refreshed emotionally, mentally, and whatnot.
Joe: Yup, yes, I'll keep that in mind.
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K's opinion:
Ask yourself, are you thinking straight? Whose words do you choose to listen to? Are you living a life true to yourself?
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Monday, July 20, 2015
Closing chapter for You Whom I Shall Not Name
Sometimes it's easy to close a chapter with someone. Sometimes it's not, for a whole lot of reasons. Often it's easier to write off someone who's nasty and destructive compared to someone who's not.
It has taken a long time, relatively speaking, for me to sit down and write the closing chapter regarding you, whom I shall not name.
You aren't a bad person. You have a good heart. You have certain life experiences that affected the way you do things. You are successful in your own way despite the odds and negativity surrounding your environment.
We have had plenty of happy moments, happy memories, and constructive experiences together. For these I appreciate very much and acknowledge that I have learnt something useful. Thank you for all these.
But then, we must come back to reality. It's time to move on. For you and for me. I have reserved myself for you for long enough, and asked the key questions not once, but several times. And you have chosen not to join me. So be it.
If I see you, I shall wish you well, and may you find your happiness wherever it may be. Although I personally think you won't find it so easily, for reasons most closely related to your own self.
All the best to you. Letting go is never easy but I have to for the sake of reality.
(233 words)
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NOTE: Do not use Google Translate. It WON'T give you an accurate translation for the Cantonese text.
有時好容易結束一個連劇集。有時冇咁容易。如果嗰個人好𨶙臭又衰又姦嘅話，比較容易放手，佢在生在死都唔關我事。不過通常，我識得嘅人唔會衰到咁極端啦。
我要寫呢個結束集，關於一個人，只稱呼＂你＂。其實我經過好耐時間先寫到呢個結束。
你唔係姦人。你嘅心入便係好嘅。係你嘅生活背景，經過嘅嘢，參到嘅人，長大嘅時候，呢啲全部影響到你嘅選擇，影響到你做嘅嘢。雖然生活俾你好多限制，你都克服到呢啲障礙。所以我都佩服你。
我哋曾經一齊分享好多開心嘅時刻，剎那，同埋一齊學咗好多嘢。為咗呢啲全部，我感謝你。多謝嗮。呢啲真係有幫到我。
講嚟講去，都係要返返嚟現實世界。時間到咗。你要行你條路，我要行我條路。我有問過你唔只一擺，係幾擺，你嘅答案都係咁樣。你唔愛行呢條路。就係咁啦。
如果我見到你，我會祝你好運。希望你會搵到你追求嘅幸福無論喺何方。但係我覺得你唔會咁容易搵到，原因係喺你自己入便。
祝你好運。放手唔係咁容易，不過呢個係一個現實世界，唔理我鍾唔鍾意，都係冇變囉。
It has taken a long time, relatively speaking, for me to sit down and write the closing chapter regarding you, whom I shall not name.
You aren't a bad person. You have a good heart. You have certain life experiences that affected the way you do things. You are successful in your own way despite the odds and negativity surrounding your environment.
We have had plenty of happy moments, happy memories, and constructive experiences together. For these I appreciate very much and acknowledge that I have learnt something useful. Thank you for all these.
But then, we must come back to reality. It's time to move on. For you and for me. I have reserved myself for you for long enough, and asked the key questions not once, but several times. And you have chosen not to join me. So be it.
If I see you, I shall wish you well, and may you find your happiness wherever it may be. Although I personally think you won't find it so easily, for reasons most closely related to your own self.
All the best to you. Letting go is never easy but I have to for the sake of reality.
(233 words)
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NOTE: Do not use Google Translate. It WON'T give you an accurate translation for the Cantonese text.
有時好容易結束一個連劇集。有時冇咁容易。如果嗰個人好𨶙臭又衰又姦嘅話，比較容易放手，佢在生在死都唔關我事。不過通常，我識得嘅人唔會衰到咁極端啦。
我要寫呢個結束集，關於一個人，只稱呼＂你＂。其實我經過好耐時間先寫到呢個結束。
你唔係姦人。你嘅心入便係好嘅。係你嘅生活背景，經過嘅嘢，參到嘅人，長大嘅時候，呢啲全部影響到你嘅選擇，影響到你做嘅嘢。雖然生活俾你好多限制，你都克服到呢啲障礙。所以我都佩服你。
我哋曾經一齊分享好多開心嘅時刻，剎那，同埋一齊學咗好多嘢。為咗呢啲全部，我感謝你。多謝嗮。呢啲真係有幫到我。
講嚟講去，都係要返返嚟現實世界。時間到咗。你要行你條路，我要行我條路。我有問過你唔只一擺，係幾擺，你嘅答案都係咁樣。你唔愛行呢條路。就係咁啦。
如果我見到你，我會祝你好運。希望你會搵到你追求嘅幸福無論喺何方。但係我覺得你唔會咁容易搵到，原因係喺你自己入便。
祝你好運。放手唔係咁容易，不過呢個係一個現實世界，唔理我鍾唔鍾意，都係冇變囉。
Thursday, August 15, 2013
So-called religious person can be plain nasty and treacherous
(Written on July 15, 2013)
No matter what religion a person says he follows, if he's a nasty/treacherous/bad person, he's still a nasty/treacherous/bad person. Doesn't mean that a so-called religious nasty/treacherous/bad person is better than a plain nasty/treacherous/bad person. 無論佢講佢信乜教，奸人始終都係奸人。 Mou leun keui gong keui seun mat gaau, gaan yan chi jung dou hai gaan yan.
No matter what religion a person says he follows, if he's a nasty/treacherous/bad person, he's still a nasty/treacherous/bad person. Doesn't mean that a so-called religious nasty/treacherous/bad person is better than a plain nasty/treacherous/bad person. 無論佢講佢信乜教，奸人始終都係奸人。 Mou leun keui gong keui seun mat gaau, gaan yan chi jung dou hai gaan yan.
Friday, June 24, 2011
The Treachery of Humans
Some people by nature are treacherous. They manipulate, incite hatred, sow discord, do all kinds of nasty things to others. They go back on their word and use unethical means to get what they want from other people.
Fahmy told me to beware of "friend hijackers". In his words, they meet people through you, get their photos taken together with you and your friends, get into your Facebook friends network, and hang out with your friends. Before you know it they have influenced your friends to ditch you and join the hijackers' group. Now I really despise this kind of devious people, and I wish my family and friends will be able to identify and cut them off before they cause any damage.
Beware of those who can't keep their mouth shut. Some people may not be treacherous by nature but they're prone to accidentally revealing other people's personal matters, or inadvertently divulging things that should remain under wraps. I've seen that happen too often and the consequences are horrible to say the least. Certain people also like to bring up other people's private matters or personal lives as talk topic material. So, everyone should be careful of what they tell others.
If there's one type of treacherous human I really can't stand, it's those who use their knowledge of you against you. This kind of people I consider worse than dirt, they're despicable scum. Better they know nothing about you. That's why you must always be careful of what you say and to whom you're talking to. As always, prevention is better than cure. All the best.
Fahmy told me to beware of "friend hijackers". In his words, they meet people through you, get their photos taken together with you and your friends, get into your Facebook friends network, and hang out with your friends. Before you know it they have influenced your friends to ditch you and join the hijackers' group. Now I really despise this kind of devious people, and I wish my family and friends will be able to identify and cut them off before they cause any damage.
Beware of those who can't keep their mouth shut. Some people may not be treacherous by nature but they're prone to accidentally revealing other people's personal matters, or inadvertently divulging things that should remain under wraps. I've seen that happen too often and the consequences are horrible to say the least. Certain people also like to bring up other people's private matters or personal lives as talk topic material. So, everyone should be careful of what they tell others.
If there's one type of treacherous human I really can't stand, it's those who use their knowledge of you against you. This kind of people I consider worse than dirt, they're despicable scum. Better they know nothing about you. That's why you must always be careful of what you say and to whom you're talking to. As always, prevention is better than cure. All the best.
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